Storing Hope

Stories about love to restore hope in people's hearts


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Solving Family Conflicts

Recently my friend told me about a situation she going through with her uncle and Her dad. Both have been sharing the same property they got from their dad before he passed away. My friend wrote and told me that her uncle burned the sugarcane field of her dad! All the family members are affected by that situation he created.

When I heard that, I meditated for a solution and came up with an idea of writing to the one who lost his field and sharing my thoughts with him, to help him handle that situation without creating more conflicts. Here are the thoughts I shared with him:

I know you lost your field of sugar cane and it has been part of your income, but don’t sue your brother for that mistake he made, because that is just continuing the conflict, and no good can come from conflict. What your brother did was wrong. He did it in anger, without thinking what is the result. That was a mistake. In time, he will calm down and will recognize the mistake he made to set fire in your field. He will see how your family and friends are affected by that mistake, which can help his soul to recognize that mistake.

Taking him to court or doing something physical will make him feel defensive, but solving the problem without anger and punishment will help him see things more clearly in time. Divide the land and then you can avoid future conflict. It is difficult to share property with a man who has such a bad temper. So this is the time for you to divide your property from him.

Invite the Local Council and present your agreement, which shows that you have authority to take your part because your father gave that property to both of you. The agreement is going to help you guys to divide your property, and everyone will have his boundary to avoid future conflicts.

Many people make mistakes because of anger! But after a while their mind calms down and they start recognizing the mistakes they made. So your brother will recognize that mistake himself, or maybe he is already starting feeling that in his heart, just he is afraid to ask you for forgiveness. I’m sure he feels in his heart that he made a mistake. Finally, when he can admit his mistake, it can help him to learn how to control his anger.

Please, try as much as possible to avoid giving him a hard time, even if it hurts you, and help your family members understand this, so they can do the same. Because if your family members give your brother a hard time, the conflicts will keep coming. This is the best way you can use to handle that situation, and it will help you to deal with other people too. Because the world is full of challenges.

I’m sure your sugar cane will grow up again and continue sustaining your family. And you can be sure there will be no conflict, because you will be having your own property.

The important thing is to bring harmony, because conflict only creates more conflict. When someone makes a mistake, we shouldn’t make the same mistake. I hope my thoughts about this will help other people too.


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Life challenges

In life we all face a lot of challenges and each challenge helps us to move forward! By considering things in a big picture we will find a solution for our daily life challenges. Each challenge has a new message or lesson for us to move forward, and it’s part of life.

For example, a friend disappointed me by forgetting something that was important to me. It was a challenge for me, but I didn’t want to reinforce my negative feelings. So I started thinking about how much my friend cares for me and how close we are with each other. I ended up feeling their love instead of feeling disappointed. I became very happy, with very good feelings about my friend.

Then I got to know that our friendship is much more important than the individual events of life. When something disappointing happens, we decide it means something very sad about our relationship, and it’s not true. But it took me some hours to recognize that. It was a challenge, but I learnt something from it.

I’m not trying to say that disappointment is a good thing, but when it happens accept that you can learn something from it.

All the challenges I have been facing are helping me to lift up my consciousness from one step to another step. You know, challenges can be part of our growth, people don’t realize it, but it’s true.

If you have any similar experience please bring it out so that we can share our daily life challenges with others.


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How to control anger

I had a conversation with a young man; he shared with me about his anger. He told me that he broke his arm two times since he was born. The first time his mom made him annoyed, then he punched the wall and broke his arm! After some years, also his sister made him mad. Again he punched the wall and broke his arm for the second time.

He told me that sometimes when people made him mad, he feels like wants to punch the wall or anything which is in front of him! He asked me, “What should I do to avoid that habit, Wilson?” I told him do not allow the anger to drive you. You have the power to control your anger, okay? For example, when someone makes you mad, and you feel that you want to punch anything around you, you have a choice. You can move away and think about other things, which can help your mind to calm down. He understood and agreed with me.

Then the following week someone made him mad. Immediately he moved away and he felt different and he did not punch anything! Afterward he went back and said sorry to that person who was making him mad.

When he shared with me that story, I said to him, “Good job! Keep that spirit.” We all laughed. It feels so good to control our own minds and feelings.


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Spreading happiness

Last week I had a very wonderful conversation with my friend, in our conversation she said that we need to love many people as much as we can, because WE is bigger than ME. When she mentioned that that I felt so excited because the word WE uplifted my heart and her words supported my heart’s desire to love all.

I think that instead of focusing on bringing happiness to ourselves only, we should focus on spreading happiness to others. I have definitely experienced this in my own life. I am grateful to the many people who contributed to my happiness. People helped me a lot when I was facing a hard life; my life was going to be terrible without those people who helped me. That inspired me to love people. Love is the only way can bring happiness in our hearts. Love brings joy in all relationships.

God created each person in a unique way, everyone can love, everyone has a way to bring happiness to others. “I can’t” is not true, just sometimes people don’t want to be responsible for others. But that makes no one happy, not even ourselves.

That is the reason we need to be a team to bring happiness to others with our love.


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Consistency

Consistency is very important in each relationship. We all want consistency from our friends. Many people are hurting each other often due to lack of consistency in their relationships.

For example, many relationships fail because of moodiness. Some people argue a lot, this also one of the causes that can make their relationship inconsistent. People are unreliable because they don’t want to depend on each other; they want to do things how they feel without depending on others.

To maintain consistency in commitment is not easy when there’s not enough love. To be a consistent friend requires self-transcendence. We need to be understanding, forgiving, patient, trusting. We need to invest time and energy often for the good of our friendship. This isn’t easy. Also no one is perfect. We all hurt our friends’ feelings and irritate them sometimes. To be consistent means to love our friends even when it’s hard. Love is not a game, and it requires a lot sacrifice to have a better relationship. That’s why some people don’t value relationships or love, because they don’t want to be responsible.

Do you have experience about consistency? Please bring it out, we can discuss it here and help each other. Together we can help the world.


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Honest brings unity in all relationships

Learning is a continuing process throughout life. Every day we are learning things from each other, especially in our closest relationships. Friendship requires honesty to have a better friendship and real love. Sometimes we learn this from our mistakes.

I would like to share with you all a recent example. Last week I made a mistake with my friend. When she pointed out the mistake I made, immediately I said, “Sorry.” But it was not a sincere apology from the bottom of my heart! Just I said sorry for the purpose of cutting her conversation short, to avoid feeling the mistake I made. Yet it will be better to me to feel it, and fix that mistake, instead of saying sorry without a good reason. I was not honest with her.

Sometimes we try to protect ourselves, without consideration of others. I see it from my own experience. I tried to protect my feelings, but it hurt my friend’s feelings. We all face this same challenge, I hope my story will help people who face a similar challenge to understand and correct that problem for the benefit of the world.Love


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Advice for better communication

This week a woman shared with me about her feelings with her boyfriend. She told me that she is going through a hard life, because her boyfriend doesn’t understand her. And both of them are facing the problem of not being on the same page. They both keep hurting each other’s feelings in one way or another. I asked her if she realized the cause why they don’t understand each other? She said, because her boyfriend doesn’t consider her feelings.

She told me that one time she picked roses and left them in his bedroom with an intention of making him happy. But when her boyfriend returned home he saw the roses and he didn’t even say anything appreciating her. She felt that the man doesn’t consider her feelings, and she wanted to give up on the relationship.

I gave her a suggestion to keep their relationship better, so they can understand each other more than before. I told her not to give up, just to keep going ahead giving him love and gifts. And sometimes to ask him, do you like my gift? Then he will tell her yes or no. If he doesn’t like it also she should ask him what he likes, then she can find a gift he likes. That way, she will show him that his feedback important to her.

Hopefully, he will learn to change his habits and give her his responses even before she asks.