Storing Hope

Stories about love to restore hope in people's hearts


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Listening People’s Problems

When I was in Uganda (Africa) recently I learned something important from the students I met with. I was holding meetings often with students in different places and most of them were interested to share their problems with me. It was hard to solve their problems, but I decided to listen to them and let them express their feelings without me giving them my ideas.

Yes, I felt their problems so deeply, but I felt that needed to listen to them when they were sharing with me their problems instead of giving them my solutions. Later on, I asked them why don’t you share your problems with your parents or guardians? Most of them had the same answer by saying that our parents are always giving us solutions without listening to us express our feelings. That means some of the students don’t get enough attention to share more deeply their problems with the parents or guardians because of parents giving them quick solutions.

I used to do the same, but since then I learned to help them in the form of listening to people instead of coming up with my solutions. Often, after I listened to them they later came back and told me they were able to solve their problem.

I felt as if I did nothing to support them, but the students were appreciating me for listening to them.

Most of them said that it was a new experience for them being listened to. So I got to know that sometimes people want our attentions more than solutions. What do you think?


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How to control anger

I had a conversation with a young man; he shared with me about his anger. He told me that he broke his arm two times since he was born. The first time his mom made him annoyed, then he punched the wall and broke his arm! After some years, also his sister made him mad. Again he punched the wall and broke his arm for the second time.

He told me that sometimes when people made him mad, he feels like wants to punch the wall or anything which is in front of him! He asked me, “What should I do to avoid that habit, Wilson?” I told him do not allow the anger to drive you. You have the power to control your anger, okay? For example, when someone makes you mad, and you feel that you want to punch anything around you, you have a choice. You can move away and think about other things, which can help your mind to calm down. He understood and agreed with me.

Then the following week someone made him mad. Immediately he moved away and he felt different and he did not punch anything! Afterward he went back and said sorry to that person who was making him mad.

When he shared with me that story, I said to him, “Good job! Keep that spirit.” We all laughed. It feels so good to control our own minds and feelings.