What’s it all about?
Answer: Keep positive thoughts out and then allow God’s presence work in you!
What do you think my dear readers?
When I was in Uganda (Africa) recently I learned something important from the students I met with. I was holding meetings often with students in different places and most of them were interested to share their problems with me. It was hard to solve their problems, but I decided to listen to them and let them express their feelings without me giving them my ideas.
Yes, I felt their problems so deeply, but I felt that needed to listen to them when they were sharing with me their problems instead of giving them my solutions. Later on, I asked them why don’t you share your problems with your parents or guardians? Most of them had the same answer by saying that our parents are always giving us solutions without listening to us express our feelings. That means some of the students don’t get enough attention to share more deeply their problems with the parents or guardians because of parents giving them quick solutions.
I used to do the same, but since then I learned to help them in the form of listening to people instead of coming up with my solutions. Often, after I listened to them they later came back and told me they were able to solve their problem.
I felt as if I did nothing to support them, but the students were appreciating me for listening to them.
Most of them said that it was a new experience for them being listened to. So I got to know that sometimes people want our attentions more than solutions. What do you think?
In life we all face a lot of challenges and each challenge helps us to move forward! By considering things in a big picture we will find a solution for our daily life challenges. Each challenge has a new message or lesson for us to move forward, and it’s part of life.
For example, a friend disappointed me by forgetting something that was important to me. It was a challenge for me, but I didn’t want to reinforce my negative feelings. So I started thinking about how much my friend cares for me and how close we are with each other. I ended up feeling their love instead of feeling disappointed. I became very happy, with very good feelings about my friend.
Then I got to know that our friendship is much more important than the individual events of life. When something disappointing happens, we decide it means something very sad about our relationship, and it’s not true. But it took me some hours to recognize that. It was a challenge, but I learnt something from it.
I’m not trying to say that disappointment is a good thing, but when it happens accept that you can learn something from it.
All the challenges I have been facing are helping me to lift up my consciousness from one step to another step. You know, challenges can be part of our growth, people don’t realize it, but it’s true.
If you have any similar experience please bring it out so that we can share our daily life challenges with others.
Learning is a continuing process throughout life. Every day we are learning things from each other, especially in our closest relationships. Friendship requires honesty to have a better friendship and real love. Sometimes we learn this from our mistakes.
I would like to share with you all a recent example. Last week I made a mistake with my friend. When she pointed out the mistake I made, immediately I said, “Sorry.” But it was not a sincere apology from the bottom of my heart! Just I said sorry for the purpose of cutting her conversation short, to avoid feeling the mistake I made. Yet it will be better to me to feel it, and fix that mistake, instead of saying sorry without a good reason. I was not honest with her.
Sometimes we try to protect ourselves, without consideration of others. I see it from my own experience. I tried to protect my feelings, but it hurt my friend’s feelings. We all face this same challenge, I hope my story will help people who face a similar challenge to understand and correct that problem for the benefit of the world.Love
I feel inspired to share with you all something about considering each other. We do a lot of things to make our friends happy, but sometimes we also do things that hurt their feelings. I observed one important way to be connected to each other, and have a better relationship.
Here is the way: Put yourself in that person’s shoes before saying something or doing something with that person. It will help you to understand everything you need to know about him or her and feel connected with that person.
When you put yourself in someone’s shoes, you start feeling how beautiful that person is. People would not hurt each other if they would have that consideration. For example, if someone makes a mistake and you correct him or her, then another day that person makes another mistake. Before you correct that person you need much consideration first, how is he or she going to feel? Maybe that person will think that you are judging them a lot, or you don’t appreciate what they are doing. You need to feel how the person is going to feel. Then you can correct that person without any doubt between both of you. And it may be easy for that person to fix his or her mistake.
Do you know that you can even understand a tree, what it needs? The good thing is we all know how other people feel, we can feel it. Every human being has that sense of feeling and knowing, but to use those senses is sometimes hard! That’s why sometimes we make mistakes, and people fail to be on the same page. Because they don’t want to put themselves in another person’s shoes.
Some people don’t want to pay a price for the benefit of their friends. That’s the reason why people take things for granted. For example, easy life, easy love, instead of considering people’s feelings. I think the world will be a better place if everyone would be considering one another.