Happy Thanksgiving my friends.
I’m so thankful to have you all as my friends!!!
Friends become our chosen family!!!
Hello my dear friends, August 15th I turned 38 years young! I would love to celebrate my birthday with you all.
I have a brief story for you all about celebrating my birthday. I first started celebrating my birthday when I was 25 years old. All the previous years I did not celebrate my birthday, because my budget was tight! I couldn’t afford to invite my friends to come and celebrate my birthday with me. I wanted to have a cake with them and some drinks, which cost money I didn’t have. But always I had a strong hope and desire that I will start celebrating my birthday with my friends one day.
Then, since I have started celebrating my birthday, each year reminds me that my desire became true. I really encourage you all, my friends, to keep your desire alive in everything you are doing. Don’t give up hope, keep working and expecting for good results. When we have faith and don’t give up, our desires will succeed in good time.
I had a conversation with one of the students in Uganda about doubting, and I realized many people will be interested to hear about this challenge.
I asked her if she has a boyfriend? She said, “Wilson you’re funny! This is not the time for boys to mess with my life.” I knew that this student had her heart broken by a boy before, and I saw that she is afraid in her heart to try again. So I said to her that I want to talk to her a little more about boys. This is what I explained to her, maybe it will help others too.
Sometimes a person doesn’t want to have a boyfriend or girlfriend because of many reasons. One of the reasons is to avoid getting heartbroken. For example, a girl had a relationship with John and it didn’t work. Then later she had another one with Deo and it doesn’t work either. So she felt heartbroken by those two relationships, and you know how much it hurts. She wants to avoid being hurt again. This is common problem in relationships.
When people want to avoid being hurt, sometimes they end up saying that all men are the same, or all men are irresponsible, which is not true. They say that to cool their interest in boys. And they end up creating doubt in their hearts and fearing to be in a relationship anymore! Just they keep doubting and being afraid to love. Yet some men and women are faithful and responsible for their lovers. It is not right to blame them for the irresponsibility of the others.
Doubt and fear are dangerous. They hurt, too. For example, if you tell someone, “I love you,” the person who has doubt in his or her mind will answer you, “REALLY???” Instead of saying, “I love you too.”
When you put honey in your tea, you can’t take it back. It becomes part of your tea. Like that, when you doubt, it spreads in your mind and heart and becomes part of the way you think, until you are a doubtful person. But then you will have a sad life, because you will be afraid to live, and afraid to love.
Some people are ready to have a good relationship and others not, but it doesn’t mean that all people are bad, or all relationships will hurt. You see? So it’s good to take your time to get to know someone, don’t rush into relationship, but always keep hope and desire alive. Remember that many men are good and responsible for their lovers. And many women too. Always keep that positive spirit in your mind.
We can try to help people, but also they have to help themselves. It’s like going to the doctor. When you go to the doctor he may give you medicine, and tell you how to use it. He might say, “Take 2 tablets once in a day.”
But the doctor is not going to be at your home when you are taking those tablets. It’s your responsibility to take those tablets by following the doctor’s instructions he told you! You may even decide not to take those tablets. It’s your choice.
The patient has the responsibility of taking his or her tablets in time, according what the doctor said. Also the patient is free to throw away those tablets! Because it’s his or her choice.
When we help our friends, we are like the doctor. We can give our friends love and energy and good ideas. It is their choice to use our help or not. Our job is to love people everywhere we go, to the people we meet. Those people also have choice to love others or not.
If you have a story about free will, please share your story so we can help each other.
Life is full of challenges, and we are facing those challenges each day in our lives. It is hard to face our challenges. When I was in Uganda, I talked to school children each week, and helped them face their challenges. When people have no one to talk to who can help them, it is very hard.
I have been talking to many people, and I see that everyone has problems, but many of them use drugs or other things to help them feel better, even though they don’t solve their problems. It’s a way to avoid being responsible, which doesn’t help, just creates more problems.
For example, if your dad always gave you money and you never had to get a job, you’d never become a healthy functional human being. If meditation can make a person feel better about a bad life, then they have no motivation to make a change.
It makes me wonder, if people don’t want to be responsible, where is the world heading? I hope we can work together and helping each other and solve our problems for the benefit of the entire world.
I feel inspired to share with you all something about considering each other. We do a lot of things to make our friends happy, but sometimes we also do things that hurt their feelings. I observed one important way to be connected to each other, and have a better relationship.
Here is the way: Put yourself in that person’s shoes before saying something or doing something with that person. It will help you to understand everything you need to know about him or her and feel connected with that person.
When you put yourself in someone’s shoes, you start feeling how beautiful that person is. People would not hurt each other if they would have that consideration. For example, if someone makes a mistake and you correct him or her, then another day that person makes another mistake. Before you correct that person you need much consideration first, how is he or she going to feel? Maybe that person will think that you are judging them a lot, or you don’t appreciate what they are doing. You need to feel how the person is going to feel. Then you can correct that person without any doubt between both of you. And it may be easy for that person to fix his or her mistake.
Do you know that you can even understand a tree, what it needs? The good thing is we all know how other people feel, we can feel it. Every human being has that sense of feeling and knowing, but to use those senses is sometimes hard! That’s why sometimes we make mistakes, and people fail to be on the same page. Because they don’t want to put themselves in another person’s shoes.
Some people don’t want to pay a price for the benefit of their friends. That’s the reason why people take things for granted. For example, easy life, easy love, instead of considering people’s feelings. I think the world will be a better place if everyone would be considering one another.