To make a difference in someone’s life, you don’t have to be brilliant, Rich or perfect.
You just have to love and respect.
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What meant to be
If you love something, set it free. If it comes back, it’s yours. If it does not come back, it was never meant to be! I have been thinking about the things are happening in my daily life and feeling the positive thoughts that things meant to be that way for me to learn and help my friends too. Life is not a game, but together we can make life better. What do you think my dear friends?
When I was in Uganda (Africa) recently I learned something important from the students I met with. I was holding meetings often with students in different places and most of them were interested to share their problems with me. It was hard to solve their problems, but I decided to listen to them and let them express their feelings without me giving them my ideas.
Yes, I felt their problems so deeply, but I felt that needed to listen to them when they were sharing with me their problems instead of giving them my solutions. Later on, I asked them why don’t you share your problems with your parents or guardians? Most of them had the same answer by saying that our parents are always giving us solutions without listening to us express our feelings. That means some of the students don’t get enough attention to share more deeply their problems with the parents or guardians because of parents giving them quick solutions.
I used to do the same, but since then I learned to help them in the form of listening to people instead of coming up with my solutions. Often, after I listened to them they later came back and told me they were able to solve their problem.
I felt as if I did nothing to support them, but the students were appreciating me for listening to them.
Most of them said that it was a new experience for them being listened to. So I got to know that sometimes people want our attentions more than solutions. What do you think?
Hello my dear friends, August 15th I turned 38 years young! I would love to celebrate my birthday with you all.
I have a brief story for you all about celebrating my birthday. I first started celebrating my birthday when I was 25 years old. All the previous years I did not celebrate my birthday, because my budget was tight! I couldn’t afford to invite my friends to come and celebrate my birthday with me. I wanted to have a cake with them and some drinks, which cost money I didn’t have. But always I had a strong hope and desire that I will start celebrating my birthday with my friends one day.
Then, since I have started celebrating my birthday, each year reminds me that my desire became true. I really encourage you all, my friends, to keep your desire alive in everything you are doing. Don’t give up hope, keep working and expecting for good results. When we have faith and don’t give up, our desires will succeed in good time.
I had a conversation with one of the students in Uganda about doubting, and I realized many people will be interested to hear about this challenge.
I asked her if she has a boyfriend? She said, “Wilson you’re funny! This is not the time for boys to mess with my life.” I knew that this student had her heart broken by a boy before, and I saw that she is afraid in her heart to try again. So I said to her that I want to talk to her a little more about boys. This is what I explained to her, maybe it will help others too.
Sometimes a person doesn’t want to have a boyfriend or girlfriend because of many reasons. One of the reasons is to avoid getting heartbroken. For example, a girl had a relationship with John and it didn’t work. Then later she had another one with Deo and it doesn’t work either. So she felt heartbroken by those two relationships, and you know how much it hurts. She wants to avoid being hurt again. This is common problem in relationships.
When people want to avoid being hurt, sometimes they end up saying that all men are the same, or all men are irresponsible, which is not true. They say that to cool their interest in boys. And they end up creating doubt in their hearts and fearing to be in a relationship anymore! Just they keep doubting and being afraid to love. Yet some men and women are faithful and responsible for their lovers. It is not right to blame them for the irresponsibility of the others.
Doubt and fear are dangerous. They hurt, too. For example, if you tell someone, “I love you,” the person who has doubt in his or her mind will answer you, “REALLY???” Instead of saying, “I love you too.”
When you put honey in your tea, you can’t take it back. It becomes part of your tea. Like that, when you doubt, it spreads in your mind and heart and becomes part of the way you think, until you are a doubtful person. But then you will have a sad life, because you will be afraid to live, and afraid to love.
Some people are ready to have a good relationship and others not, but it doesn’t mean that all people are bad, or all relationships will hurt. You see? So it’s good to take your time to get to know someone, don’t rush into relationship, but always keep hope and desire alive. Remember that many men are good and responsible for their lovers. And many women too. Always keep that positive spirit in your mind.
Love is the only solution for all problems. This was my experience when I was facing a hard life, because I was born in a poor family, and I was not able to live with my parents. But my mom taught me how to love and the importance of love, and I had nothing else. So I used love to solve all my problems.
For example, when I moved into the city of Kampala in Uganda, I bought a piece of property and the city approved my land and put the landmarks around, showing where my property ends.
After a few days, my neighbor crossed over my landmarks and started using three meters of my land. Three meters in the city is very expensive, someone can start a business on that piece of land.
I told my neighbor that he crossed the landmark and took part of my land. He didn’t agree with what I was saying and he insisted that he knew where the landmarks stopped. I thought about what I should do. I decided having a good relationship with my neighbor is more valuable than three meters of land. So I forgave my neighbor in my heart and did my best to be a good friend to him.
After 6 months he came to my house early in the morning, and he said, “I need to talk to you Wilson.” Then we moved out and we sat outside. He apologized to me and said, “I made a mistake to cross the landmarks. I see how good you are, so I’d like you to take back your three meters which I had stolen from you.” Then we hugged each other and we were very happy to be very close neighbors.
I solved that problem by using love, instead of taking him to court. Love was a much better solution. Even if I will be taking him to court, I can make him refund my land; but he will not stop being mean to other people, and he will not be happy with me. So, more problems would come. But people won’t mean things when they love each other.
I encourage you to use love to solve your problems too.
Jane is 34 years old and was one of my neighbors in Uganda, and we used to talk together about love. She moved to Kuwait to work and she started sharing love with her friends in Kuwait. She organized a group to talk about love and study the Cards for Living. She told me this story about the challenge she faced recently.
I had been calling Jane’s phone, and her phone was always off. And I was asking myself why is her phone off? She has my e-mail so why isn’t she writing to me? I was really worried about her, because we have never spent a month without communicating, either on phone or by e-mail.
Then, on June 25, 2014 I called her and she finally picked up the phone. She told me that she had been in jail for one month because the company where she was working didn’t follow the rules to bring people from different countries. The employees didn’t know about this and were happy to have a job. Then, suddenly one day the police closed the company and arrested the employees, including Jane.
When Jane reached the jail she met many different people, with all different cases. She was put in one large cell with 50 other people. They were all sleeping there on the floor, and each person had a little mattress and little blanket without bed sheets. She told me that it was an intense life there. For example, to take a bath they had to line up one by one until all 50 people were done.
At night all of them started sweating and couldn’t sleep so they told stories and made a lot of noise. Then, Jane came up with the idea of teaching love in jail and making a schedule of meditation every morning. They had all different religions, and all liked her idea. They started gathering to do meditation, and they took her idea to send love to those people who arrested them and the entire world. They did this every day for the whole month.
Now Jane is out of jail, but the police kept her legal documents, because the investigation is still going on. The workers have to keep reporting each week, and they are not supposed work in Kuwait just wait until they deport them back to their counties.
When I spoke with her on the phone, her spirit was so strong. After her difficult experience in jail, and now living every day with uncertainty, she might be unhappy and afraid, but she is not! She was feeling good because of her beautiful mission in jail.
Love heals the one who loves.