Storing Hope

Stories about love to restore hope in people's hearts


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Consistency

Consistency is very important in each relationship. We all want consistency from our friends. Many people are hurting each other often due to lack of consistency in their relationships.

For example, many relationships fail because of moodiness. Some people argue a lot, this also one of the causes that can make their relationship inconsistent. People are unreliable because they don’t want to depend on each other; they want to do things how they feel without depending on others.

To maintain consistency in commitment is not easy when there’s not enough love. To be a consistent friend requires self-transcendence. We need to be understanding, forgiving, patient, trusting. We need to invest time and energy often for the good of our friendship. This isn’t easy. Also no one is perfect. We all hurt our friends’ feelings and irritate them sometimes. To be consistent means to love our friends even when it’s hard. Love is not a game, and it requires a lot sacrifice to have a better relationship. That’s why some people don’t value relationships or love, because they don’t want to be responsible.

Do you have experience about consistency? Please bring it out, we can discuss it here and help each other. Together we can help the world.


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Daily Challenges

Life is full of challenges, and we are facing those challenges each day in our lives. It is hard to face our challenges. When I was in Uganda, I talked to school children each week, and helped them face their challenges. When people have no one to talk to who can help them, it is very hard.

I have been talking to many people, and I see that everyone has problems, but many of them use drugs or other things to help them feel better, even though they don’t solve their problems. It’s a way to avoid being responsible, which doesn’t help, just creates more problems.

For example, if your dad always gave you money and you never had to get a job, you’d never become a healthy functional human being. If meditation can make a person feel better about a bad life, then they have no motivation to make a change.

It makes me wonder, if people don’t want to be responsible, where is the world heading? I hope we can work together and helping each other and solve our problems for the benefit of the entire world.


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Put yourself in that person’s shoes

I feel inspired to share with you all something about considering each other. We do a lot of things to make our friends happy, but sometimes we also do things that hurt their feelings. I observed one important way to be connected to each other, and have a better relationship.

Here is the way: Put yourself in that person’s shoes before saying something or doing something with that person. It will help you to understand everything you need to know about him or her and feel connected with that person.

When you put yourself in someone’s shoes, you start feeling how beautiful that person is. People would not hurt each other if they would have that consideration. For example, if someone makes a mistake and you correct him or her, then another day that person makes another mistake. Before you correct that person you need much consideration first, how is he or she going to feel? Maybe that person will think that you are judging them a lot, or you don’t appreciate what they are doing. You need to feel how the person is going to feel. Then you can correct that person without any doubt between both of you. And it may be easy for that person to fix his or her mistake.

Do you know that you can even understand a tree, what it needs? The good thing is we all know how other people feel, we can feel it. Every human being has that sense of feeling and knowing, but to use those senses is sometimes hard! That’s why sometimes we make mistakes, and people fail to be on the same page. Because they don’t want to put themselves in another person’s shoes.

Some people don’t want to pay a price for the benefit of their friends. That’s the reason why people take things for granted. For example, easy life, easy love, instead of considering people’s feelings. I think the world will be a better place if everyone would be considering one another.


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You can always help

I am always interested to learn more about taking care of people. So I really enjoyed this experience I had recently. Last month a friend and I went to volunteer at Coos County Fairgrounds USA to help hang quilts for the show. The other volunteers were happy to have two young strong men to help them. We split up in groups working together to hang the quilts. In my group there was an older woman who was short, and obviously needed help.

I climbed up the ladder and as she was helping me to stretch the fabric, she said, “You guys, I’m short, I can’t reach up to hang the fabric and I’m afraid to climb a ladder, but I’d like to work with you anyway.” I told her, “You are doing great even if you can’t climb the ladder, because you are holding the fabric for us. Don’t you see that you are also helping us?” But she felt dissatisfied. She said “I don’t feel happy when you are all working hard and climbing the ladder and doing all the work, I would really love to support you guys more.”

After hanging the quilt I came down from the ladder and she was not there anymore. I thought maybe she joined another group because there were many groups also hanging quilts.

Then after a half an hour, she came back and said, “I’m afraid to climb the ladder, but now I got an idea how I can help you guys! I brought you some snacks over there on the table!’’ She started walking around and telling all the people that she brought them snacks. When I came to the table I found some fruit and candy bars she brought for us and I ate some. She was so happy, because she fulfilled her desire of supporting us, and I was so happy too. When I came back home I told my friends what this woman did at the fair and everyone every one was inspired by that story. She really found a good way to help!

In some situations we may think that we can’t be helpful, yet there’s always something you can do to help and inspire people. We all have beautiful desires to help each other, and we can be creative to find ways to support each other.

Quilt picture

 


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Love Thy Neighbor-Personal Experience

“Love Thy Neighbor”

I would like to share with you all an experience I had with my neighbor. Sometimes if you be patient with a person, the goodness within them comes out…

When I moved into the city of Kampala in Uganda, I bought a piece of property and the city approved my land and put the landmarks around, showing where my property ends.

After a few days, my neighbor crossed over my landmarks and started using three meters of my land. Three meters in the city is very expensive, someone can start a business on that piece of land.

I told him that he crossed the landmark and took part of my land. He didn’t agree with what I was saying and he insisted that he knew where the landmarks stopped.

I went back in my house and I was thinking about what I could do. I came up with the idea to assume that he is a good neighbor, and three meters are not more important than being good neighbors. I started thinking about the importance of being a good neighbor, because before I got this house me and him used to cooperate and share wheelbarrows, shovels etc. We had a very close friendship. That’s why I decided to not go into conflict with him and let him take the three meters.

I didn’t stop talking to him or sharing things as we used to, and our friendship continued and we didn’t have any conflict. And since then we continued with our new life and everything was going on well.

After 6 months he came to my house early in the morning, and he said, “I need to talk to you Wilson.” Then we moved out and we sat outside. He apologized to me and said, “I made a mistake to cross the landmark and I see how good you are, so I’d like you to take back your three meters which I had stolen from you.” Then we hugged each other and we were very happy to be very close neighbors.

The reason why I wanted to share this story with all of you is that maybe one time it can happen to you that somebody does something wrong to you, so you will consider what you can do to keep friendship alive and trust in the goodness of that person, instead of just being angry and creating more conflict.


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My Childhood Gardening Teamwork

My Childhood Gardening Business

When I was 15 years old, I had gardens as my source of income to get school fees and to sustain my living expenses.

I used to plant beans and corn in a large garden. At the time I was a student, so I used to make a schedule for planting seeds and inform all my classmates the day on which I’m going to plant beans or corn so that they can come and help me. In return for their help, we all shared a meal from my garden.

Out of the whole class 25 students used to come and help me plant beans on a weekend, because on weekdays we had our regular classes and we didn’t want to skip any lesson. My friends loved to come because Saturday the school was closed, and then we had enough time to enjoy gardening.

We used to prepare our own food in a very big saucepan. We ate and told each other wonderful stories, making a lot of noise and getting things done in the garden. Because we used to spend the whole day gardening, we used to bring along all the things we might need, like drinking water, plates, and cups, to avoid wasting time.

Then after gardening all of them started asking me? “ When are we coming back again for our gardening party?” I used to tell them that we would keep in touch in class because I have to prepare the garden first to be ready for planting again. In those days I learned teamwork and commitment. My friends and I had a strong cooperation, and we were committed to get things done.

All the kids who used to help me are now grown up and have their own families, and we are still friends. When we meet each other we talk about our memories of gardening and sometimes we all cry tears.

I hope you enjoy this story.

Baby bean

Baby bean plant

Baby corn plants

Baby corn plant

 


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Story about inspiration

In Uganda, my family didn’t allow me to wash dishes because I was very busy and they wanted to take care of me. So I never washed dishes before I came to America.

My first day in the household where I live now, I was so inspired to see people washing plates all together after dinner. I watched them for ten minutes, and I got inspired to join them, everyone was busy washing plates and cleaning the kitchen as a team with much love. Now I like to wash plates, and I am good at it.

Friendship is a great thing. It expands us to see things our friends do, or new ways to think or do things. Because of love, we want to do things we would otherwise not want to do.