Storing Hope

Stories about love to restore hope in people's hearts


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Listening People’s Problems

When I was in Uganda (Africa) recently I learned something important from the students I met with. I was holding meetings often with students in different places and most of them were interested to share their problems with me. It was hard to solve their problems, but I decided to listen to them and let them express their feelings without me giving them my ideas.

Yes, I felt their problems so deeply, but I felt that needed to listen to them when they were sharing with me their problems instead of giving them my solutions. Later on, I asked them why don’t you share your problems with your parents or guardians? Most of them had the same answer by saying that our parents are always giving us solutions without listening to us express our feelings. That means some of the students don’t get enough attention to share more deeply their problems with the parents or guardians because of parents giving them quick solutions.

I used to do the same, but since then I learned to help them in the form of listening to people instead of coming up with my solutions. Often, after I listened to them they later came back and told me they were able to solve their problem.

I felt as if I did nothing to support them, but the students were appreciating me for listening to them.

Most of them said that it was a new experience for them being listened to. So I got to know that sometimes people want our attentions more than solutions. What do you think?


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What It Takes To Be You

This week a friend of mine shared with me his challenge of hurting his friends. He said that sometimes he feels his energy is low, and then he starts making careless mistakes and hurting his friends by being forgetful and thoughtless. But when his energy is high, he always doing great things and making his friends happy. That’s when he feels truly like himself.

He said that he has had that pattern for many years, and he has been working hard to change that pattern so that he can be the real “himself”’ instead of doing things he’s not proud of.

I gave him this advice to help him: he should know what it takes to be him. For example, to be Wilson, to be Jane, to be Bob, etc. , whoever you are, it requires love, commitment, and consistency to be the real YOU. When you are unloving or unreliable or inconsistent, you feel bad about yourself, and you feel you should do better than that.

Everyone has a name, but to maintain your name shining takes a lot. It requires you to transcend your pride and other bad habits, which is not easy. But you do it for the benefit of others. When you do things which are hurting people, that’s not the real you! You are not living up to your own heart’s standards. The real you has very high standards.

I asked him to do what it takes to be the real himself, then he will be able to fix that pattern of hurting his friends; then he can maintain his name shining and his friends will be proud of him. He took that point so seriously and he shook my hand!

If you have an experience or something you would like to share with other people about what it takes to be the real you, please bring it out so that we can help each other.


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Put yourself in that person’s shoes

I feel inspired to share with you all something about considering each other. We do a lot of things to make our friends happy, but sometimes we also do things that hurt their feelings. I observed one important way to be connected to each other, and have a better relationship.

Here is the way: Put yourself in that person’s shoes before saying something or doing something with that person. It will help you to understand everything you need to know about him or her and feel connected with that person.

When you put yourself in someone’s shoes, you start feeling how beautiful that person is. People would not hurt each other if they would have that consideration. For example, if someone makes a mistake and you correct him or her, then another day that person makes another mistake. Before you correct that person you need much consideration first, how is he or she going to feel? Maybe that person will think that you are judging them a lot, or you don’t appreciate what they are doing. You need to feel how the person is going to feel. Then you can correct that person without any doubt between both of you. And it may be easy for that person to fix his or her mistake.

Do you know that you can even understand a tree, what it needs? The good thing is we all know how other people feel, we can feel it. Every human being has that sense of feeling and knowing, but to use those senses is sometimes hard! That’s why sometimes we make mistakes, and people fail to be on the same page. Because they don’t want to put themselves in another person’s shoes.

Some people don’t want to pay a price for the benefit of their friends. That’s the reason why people take things for granted. For example, easy life, easy love, instead of considering people’s feelings. I think the world will be a better place if everyone would be considering one another.