Storing Hope

Stories about love to restore hope in people's hearts


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How to control anger

I had a conversation with a young man; he shared with me about his anger. He told me that he broke his arm two times since he was born. The first time his mom made him annoyed, then he punched the wall and broke his arm! After some years, also his sister made him mad. Again he punched the wall and broke his arm for the second time.

He told me that sometimes when people made him mad, he feels like wants to punch the wall or anything which is in front of him! He asked me, “What should I do to avoid that habit, Wilson?” I told him do not allow the anger to drive you. You have the power to control your anger, okay? For example, when someone makes you mad, and you feel that you want to punch anything around you, you have a choice. You can move away and think about other things, which can help your mind to calm down. He understood and agreed with me.

Then the following week someone made him mad. Immediately he moved away and he felt different and he did not punch anything! Afterward he went back and said sorry to that person who was making him mad.

When he shared with me that story, I said to him, “Good job! Keep that spirit.” We all laughed. It feels so good to control our own minds and feelings.


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Free Will

We can try to help people, but also they have to help themselves. It’s like going to the doctor. When you go to the doctor he may give you medicine, and tell you how to use it. He might say, “Take 2 tablets once in a day.”

But the doctor is not going to be at your home when you are taking those tablets. It’s your responsibility to take those tablets by following the doctor’s instructions he told you! You may even decide not to take those tablets. It’s your choice.

The patient has the responsibility of taking his or her tablets in time, according what the doctor said. Also the patient is free to throw away those tablets! Because it’s his or her choice.

When we help our friends, we are like the doctor. We can give our friends love and energy and good ideas. It is their choice to use our help or not. Our job is to love people everywhere we go, to the people we meet. Those people also have choice to love others or not.

If you have a story about free will, please share your story so we can help each other.


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What It Takes To Be You

This week a friend of mine shared with me his challenge of hurting his friends. He said that sometimes he feels his energy is low, and then he starts making careless mistakes and hurting his friends by being forgetful and thoughtless. But when his energy is high, he always doing great things and making his friends happy. That’s when he feels truly like himself.

He said that he has had that pattern for many years, and he has been working hard to change that pattern so that he can be the real “himself”’ instead of doing things he’s not proud of.

I gave him this advice to help him: he should know what it takes to be him. For example, to be Wilson, to be Jane, to be Bob, etc. , whoever you are, it requires love, commitment, and consistency to be the real YOU. When you are unloving or unreliable or inconsistent, you feel bad about yourself, and you feel you should do better than that.

Everyone has a name, but to maintain your name shining takes a lot. It requires you to transcend your pride and other bad habits, which is not easy. But you do it for the benefit of others. When you do things which are hurting people, that’s not the real you! You are not living up to your own heart’s standards. The real you has very high standards.

I asked him to do what it takes to be the real himself, then he will be able to fix that pattern of hurting his friends; then he can maintain his name shining and his friends will be proud of him. He took that point so seriously and he shook my hand!

If you have an experience or something you would like to share with other people about what it takes to be the real you, please bring it out so that we can help each other.


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Consistency

Consistency is very important in each relationship. We all want consistency from our friends. Many people are hurting each other often due to lack of consistency in their relationships.

For example, many relationships fail because of moodiness. Some people argue a lot, this also one of the causes that can make their relationship inconsistent. People are unreliable because they don’t want to depend on each other; they want to do things how they feel without depending on others.

To maintain consistency in commitment is not easy when there’s not enough love. To be a consistent friend requires self-transcendence. We need to be understanding, forgiving, patient, trusting. We need to invest time and energy often for the good of our friendship. This isn’t easy. Also no one is perfect. We all hurt our friends’ feelings and irritate them sometimes. To be consistent means to love our friends even when it’s hard. Love is not a game, and it requires a lot sacrifice to have a better relationship. That’s why some people don’t value relationships or love, because they don’t want to be responsible.

Do you have experience about consistency? Please bring it out, we can discuss it here and help each other. Together we can help the world.


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Daily Challenges

Life is full of challenges, and we are facing those challenges each day in our lives. It is hard to face our challenges. When I was in Uganda, I talked to school children each week, and helped them face their challenges. When people have no one to talk to who can help them, it is very hard.

I have been talking to many people, and I see that everyone has problems, but many of them use drugs or other things to help them feel better, even though they don’t solve their problems. It’s a way to avoid being responsible, which doesn’t help, just creates more problems.

For example, if your dad always gave you money and you never had to get a job, you’d never become a healthy functional human being. If meditation can make a person feel better about a bad life, then they have no motivation to make a change.

It makes me wonder, if people don’t want to be responsible, where is the world heading? I hope we can work together and helping each other and solve our problems for the benefit of the entire world.


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Learning from friends

I would like to share a correspondence that I have had with Asha, one of the students who attended the Unification classes I gave in Uganda. In these letters there are a lot of great examples of loving even when there are difficulties in friendships. Enjoy!

April 13, 2014

Asha told me that she had five friends and two of them separated from her, because they used to argue with her all the time. Then Asha shared the story with me and she was seeking advice from me what to do with her friends. Many people have similar problems, when they disagree with their friends, but don’t want to lose their friends.

You can read her letter and the advice I gave her below:

The letter from Asha: 

Asha to Wilson with Asha picture

My letter to Asha: 

Dear Asha,

Thank you so much for the wonderful letter. True, some people have different ideas and it doesn’t help to argue with them, just talk to them in a polite way when you see that they are not interested. Don’t argue with them. The best thing is to plant a seed, by your kindness, by your attention, and your love. If you show them that love exists, you are showing them that God exists, because God is love. With time they will understand and agree with you. And, when you are doing meditation send love to them.

Here is an example: my friend used to tell me to be open. I took some months to understand that I need to be open for the good of our relationship, and after a while I realized that I need to be open with her and my other friends. Since then we all understand each other, and I see much improvement in our relationship.

Remember, it was really a bit hard for me to accept that I need to be open. But the seed she planted grew in me. So, don’t argue, just plant seeds. I think other people are like me. It takes us time to accept new ideas. Just love them. Love has no limitation, no matter what.

Here is an assignment for you to do. Practice planting seeds in people instead of arguing. Then write to me and tell me your experiences, and what you are learning from them.

If you have any questions, do not hesitate to ask Mummy Sara or me. We will be able to help you to answer your questions.

Love,

Wilson