To make a difference in someone’s life, you don’t have to be brilliant, Rich or perfect.
You just have to love and respect.
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My friend asked me a question. What should we do to support humanity?
My friend knew that this is something I think about often, because I understand that the problems of this world are big, and many. I feel people’s suffering, and I want to do what I can to help. I can only do a little, but if every person did what they can, it could add up to something big.
I gave my friend the best answer I have thought of so far, which is that everyone should love people in the area where he or she lives. I hope that each person who loves and takes care of the people around them will also inspire others to do the same. In this way, love will naturally spread from person to person.
I feel this can make a big difference and help make the world to be a better place.
What do you think my dear reader?
When I was in Uganda (Africa) recently I learned something important from the students I met with. I was holding meetings often with students in different places and most of them were interested to share their problems with me. It was hard to solve their problems, but I decided to listen to them and let them express their feelings without me giving them my ideas.
Yes, I felt their problems so deeply, but I felt that needed to listen to them when they were sharing with me their problems instead of giving them my solutions. Later on, I asked them why don’t you share your problems with your parents or guardians? Most of them had the same answer by saying that our parents are always giving us solutions without listening to us express our feelings. That means some of the students don’t get enough attention to share more deeply their problems with the parents or guardians because of parents giving them quick solutions.
I used to do the same, but since then I learned to help them in the form of listening to people instead of coming up with my solutions. Often, after I listened to them they later came back and told me they were able to solve their problem.
I felt as if I did nothing to support them, but the students were appreciating me for listening to them.
Most of them said that it was a new experience for them being listened to. So I got to know that sometimes people want our attentions more than solutions. What do you think?
Recently my friend told me about a situation she going through with her uncle and Her dad. Both have been sharing the same property they got from their dad before he passed away. My friend wrote and told me that her uncle burned the sugarcane field of her dad! All the family members are affected by that situation he created.
When I heard that, I meditated for a solution and came up with an idea of writing to the one who lost his field and sharing my thoughts with him, to help him handle that situation without creating more conflicts. Here are the thoughts I shared with him:
I know you lost your field of sugar cane and it has been part of your income, but don’t sue your brother for that mistake he made, because that is just continuing the conflict, and no good can come from conflict. What your brother did was wrong. He did it in anger, without thinking what is the result. That was a mistake. In time, he will calm down and will recognize the mistake he made to set fire in your field. He will see how your family and friends are affected by that mistake, which can help his soul to recognize that mistake.
Taking him to court or doing something physical will make him feel defensive, but solving the problem without anger and punishment will help him see things more clearly in time. Divide the land and then you can avoid future conflict. It is difficult to share property with a man who has such a bad temper. So this is the time for you to divide your property from him.
Invite the Local Council and present your agreement, which shows that you have authority to take your part because your father gave that property to both of you. The agreement is going to help you guys to divide your property, and everyone will have his boundary to avoid future conflicts.
Many people make mistakes because of anger! But after a while their mind calms down and they start recognizing the mistakes they made. So your brother will recognize that mistake himself, or maybe he is already starting feeling that in his heart, just he is afraid to ask you for forgiveness. I’m sure he feels in his heart that he made a mistake. Finally, when he can admit his mistake, it can help him to learn how to control his anger.
Please, try as much as possible to avoid giving him a hard time, even if it hurts you, and help your family members understand this, so they can do the same. Because if your family members give your brother a hard time, the conflicts will keep coming. This is the best way you can use to handle that situation, and it will help you to deal with other people too. Because the world is full of challenges.
I’m sure your sugar cane will grow up again and continue sustaining your family. And you can be sure there will be no conflict, because you will be having your own property.
The important thing is to bring harmony, because conflict only creates more conflict. When someone makes a mistake, we shouldn’t make the same mistake. I hope my thoughts about this will help other people too.
In life we all face a lot of challenges and each challenge helps us to move forward! By considering things in a big picture we will find a solution for our daily life challenges. Each challenge has a new message or lesson for us to move forward, and it’s part of life.
For example, a friend disappointed me by forgetting something that was important to me. It was a challenge for me, but I didn’t want to reinforce my negative feelings. So I started thinking about how much my friend cares for me and how close we are with each other. I ended up feeling their love instead of feeling disappointed. I became very happy, with very good feelings about my friend.
Then I got to know that our friendship is much more important than the individual events of life. When something disappointing happens, we decide it means something very sad about our relationship, and it’s not true. But it took me some hours to recognize that. It was a challenge, but I learnt something from it.
I’m not trying to say that disappointment is a good thing, but when it happens accept that you can learn something from it.
All the challenges I have been facing are helping me to lift up my consciousness from one step to another step. You know, challenges can be part of our growth, people don’t realize it, but it’s true.
If you have any similar experience please bring it out so that we can share our daily life challenges with others.
When I was in Uganda I helped a group of women who were making jewelry and handmade crafts. My role was marketing their business in different areas, but since I moved to the United States I can’t do that any more. So it affected their business. Still I keep in touch with them and share ideas about their business of making crafts, because it is the main source of their income.
I have been sharing ideas with them how to promote their business because their expenses are high, but their income is low! I talked to one of my friends here in America about their challenges of marketing their business, and she gave me idea of promoting their business on my blog. Maybe there some people who are interested to support their business in one way or another.
Here are pictures of some of the jewelry and other crafts they make. They also make grass mats in different colors and different sizes.
For more information please, contact me on Wilson.firstname.lastname@example.org Together we can improve their lives.
Hello my dear friends, August 15th I turned 38 years young! I would love to celebrate my birthday with you all.
I have a brief story for you all about celebrating my birthday. I first started celebrating my birthday when I was 25 years old. All the previous years I did not celebrate my birthday, because my budget was tight! I couldn’t afford to invite my friends to come and celebrate my birthday with me. I wanted to have a cake with them and some drinks, which cost money I didn’t have. But always I had a strong hope and desire that I will start celebrating my birthday with my friends one day.
Then, since I have started celebrating my birthday, each year reminds me that my desire became true. I really encourage you all, my friends, to keep your desire alive in everything you are doing. Don’t give up hope, keep working and expecting for good results. When we have faith and don’t give up, our desires will succeed in good time.
I had a conversation with a young man; he shared with me about his anger. He told me that he broke his arm two times since he was born. The first time his mom made him annoyed, then he punched the wall and broke his arm! After some years, also his sister made him mad. Again he punched the wall and broke his arm for the second time.
He told me that sometimes when people made him mad, he feels like wants to punch the wall or anything which is in front of him! He asked me, “What should I do to avoid that habit, Wilson?” I told him do not allow the anger to drive you. You have the power to control your anger, okay? For example, when someone makes you mad, and you feel that you want to punch anything around you, you have a choice. You can move away and think about other things, which can help your mind to calm down. He understood and agreed with me.
Then the following week someone made him mad. Immediately he moved away and he felt different and he did not punch anything! Afterward he went back and said sorry to that person who was making him mad.
When he shared with me that story, I said to him, “Good job! Keep that spirit.” We all laughed. It feels so good to control our own minds and feelings.
We can try to help people, but also they have to help themselves. It’s like going to the doctor. When you go to the doctor he may give you medicine, and tell you how to use it. He might say, “Take 2 tablets once in a day.”
But the doctor is not going to be at your home when you are taking those tablets. It’s your responsibility to take those tablets by following the doctor’s instructions he told you! You may even decide not to take those tablets. It’s your choice.
The patient has the responsibility of taking his or her tablets in time, according what the doctor said. Also the patient is free to throw away those tablets! Because it’s his or her choice.
When we help our friends, we are like the doctor. We can give our friends love and energy and good ideas. It is their choice to use our help or not. Our job is to love people everywhere we go, to the people we meet. Those people also have choice to love others or not.
If you have a story about free will, please share your story so we can help each other.
This week a friend of mine shared with me his challenge of hurting his friends. He said that sometimes he feels his energy is low, and then he starts making careless mistakes and hurting his friends by being forgetful and thoughtless. But when his energy is high, he always doing great things and making his friends happy. That’s when he feels truly like himself.
He said that he has had that pattern for many years, and he has been working hard to change that pattern so that he can be the real “himself”’ instead of doing things he’s not proud of.
I gave him this advice to help him: he should know what it takes to be him. For example, to be Wilson, to be Jane, to be Bob, etc. , whoever you are, it requires love, commitment, and consistency to be the real YOU. When you are unloving or unreliable or inconsistent, you feel bad about yourself, and you feel you should do better than that.
Everyone has a name, but to maintain your name shining takes a lot. It requires you to transcend your pride and other bad habits, which is not easy. But you do it for the benefit of others. When you do things which are hurting people, that’s not the real you! You are not living up to your own heart’s standards. The real you has very high standards.
I asked him to do what it takes to be the real himself, then he will be able to fix that pattern of hurting his friends; then he can maintain his name shining and his friends will be proud of him. He took that point so seriously and he shook my hand!
If you have an experience or something you would like to share with other people about what it takes to be the real you, please bring it out so that we can help each other.