This week a friend of mine shared with me his challenge of hurting his friends. He said that sometimes he feels his energy is low, and then he starts making careless mistakes and hurting his friends by being forgetful and thoughtless. But when his energy is high, he always doing great things and making his friends happy. That’s when he feels truly like himself.
He said that he has had that pattern for many years, and he has been working hard to change that pattern so that he can be the real “himself”’ instead of doing things he’s not proud of.
I gave him this advice to help him: he should know what it takes to be him. For example, to be Wilson, to be Jane, to be Bob, etc. , whoever you are, it requires love, commitment, and consistency to be the real YOU. When you are unloving or unreliable or inconsistent, you feel bad about yourself, and you feel you should do better than that.
Everyone has a name, but to maintain your name shining takes a lot. It requires you to transcend your pride and other bad habits, which is not easy. But you do it for the benefit of others. When you do things which are hurting people, that’s not the real you! You are not living up to your own heart’s standards. The real you has very high standards.
I asked him to do what it takes to be the real himself, then he will be able to fix that pattern of hurting his friends; then he can maintain his name shining and his friends will be proud of him. He took that point so seriously and he shook my hand!
If you have an experience or something you would like to share with other people about what it takes to be the real you, please bring it out so that we can help each other.
May 26, 2015 at 12:57 am
Very helpful! Thanks for sharing! 🙂
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May 26, 2015 at 3:14 pm
You are welcome!
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May 26, 2015 at 3:26 am
Hi there! Reminded me of an earlier piece I wrote: https://authenticitee.wordpress.com/2015/01/24/the-fading-facade/
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May 28, 2015 at 3:21 am
Thank you so much for referring me to your link, I loved it.
I loved what you said about giving yourself permission to be human, and I really appreciate your prayer. Thank you for so openly sharing your heart.
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May 28, 2015 at 3:47 am
So glad it spoke to you. Grateful that you let me know😌
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May 28, 2015 at 2:51 pm
Thank you so much for the beautiful energy you put in this comment.
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May 26, 2015 at 5:29 am
It’s so much about caring and not beeing greedy. What you gives, you gets back in return. But to handle that, as you mention we have to be our own best friend first and really like ourselves, the way we are. A great post:)
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May 26, 2015 at 11:47 am
“When you do things which are hurting people, that’s not the real you!” This actually is the point. Who we are is love, since our spirit (who we really are) is a part of the divine. That means our true self is love. As long as your friend cannot connect with the love he is, he is not able to love others. We don’t get love, we don’t need to earn love. We only need to love ourselves. Btw. this is my Monday post of this week. If you want just check it out. Perhaps it helps your friend: https://erikakind.wordpress.com/2015/05/25/self-love-cause-and-result/
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May 28, 2015 at 3:19 am
I agree with you, people need to know who really they are and accept that they are good and lovable. Thank you for sharing your experience with me. I will share your link with my friend, because it has beautiful teachings.
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May 28, 2015 at 8:01 am
That is so very nice of you, Wilson! I thank you and appreciate this support a lot. I am so happy when I can reach as many people as possible!!! Big hugs, Wilson!
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May 28, 2015 at 2:55 pm
The power of love is strong in you! The appreciation you gave me makes me happy because I feel your happiness in it. I’m sending you many hugs!
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May 28, 2015 at 2:57 pm
And this makes me happy! We practice the wonderful flow of giving and receiving… What could we wish for more?
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May 26, 2015 at 7:24 pm
Hi Wilson thank you for like one of my post! It is my first time on your Blog here, you are doing a great job! In your post here, you gave your friend a great advice! I will add that he need to deeply love himself in order to be able to love others and not hurting since that state is not the real him! Sometimes people hurts others out of fears or insecurity because inside they are not happy with themselves he need to learn to love himself first. 🙂
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May 27, 2015 at 12:11 am
Wow! This is so amazing, your point is absolutly correct and helpful too. God bless you.
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May 27, 2015 at 12:32 am
Hi Wilson, thank you so much I am glad that you like my point, and that it was helpful I am going to follow your Blog now 🙂
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May 27, 2015 at 12:50 am
You are welcome, I’m going to follow your blog too.
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May 27, 2015 at 12:54 am
Thank you so much for following!
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May 27, 2015 at 2:56 am
Thank you!
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May 27, 2015 at 3:02 am
You are welcome!
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May 29, 2015 at 1:10 am
Hi Wilson, congratulations! I just want to let you know that I nominated you for Blog Tour Award here is my post http://yesterdayafter.com/2015/05/28/great-award-season-blog-tour-award/
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May 29, 2015 at 2:03 pm
Wow! Thank you so much.
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May 29, 2015 at 5:44 pm
You are welcome Wilson! Your story and what are you doing in your life helping others need to be shared. You deserve it! I was very happy to include you in my nomenations… 🙂
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May 30, 2015 at 9:24 pm
Thank you for being kind! You are a good friend of me!
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May 30, 2015 at 9:41 pm
Of course! You are welcome Wilson 🙂 Let me know when you post for the award…
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June 15, 2015 at 4:54 pm
I am an extreme empath, and a hair dresser, so I am around people all day standing on my feet. I have tried “grounding to mother earth” and “white light” neither is working for me, how do I solve this issue? Namestate Jackie
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June 17, 2015 at 3:25 am
Jackie, thank you for sharing your experience with me. As I wrote, it requires a lot to be you. For you to be the loving and giving person you are, you must be committed to bringing love in all situations. When a person is sad, you bring love to their sadness. When they are upset, you bring love to their upset. This is your solution.
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June 21, 2015 at 6:28 pm
This is inspiring
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June 21, 2015 at 6:36 pm
Thank you!
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June 24, 2015 at 11:37 pm
Wilson, every time I come to your blog it makes me feel so good. You’re doing great work here. ~Steph
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June 27, 2015 at 12:41 am
Thank you so much Steph, I really appreciate your comment. Your words make me feel good too! Your comment means a lot me, thank you so much for your support!
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June 27, 2015 at 11:50 pm
You are most welcome Wilson!! 🙂
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June 28, 2015 at 5:39 pm
Thanks!
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July 17, 2015 at 8:03 am
Thank you for visiting my blog and for liking my poem Wilson. You have one of those ‘light up your face’ smiles and I can’t help but smile when I see your photo. Great post and advice to your friend. I am ‘following’ you and look forward to reading more of your work.
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July 17, 2015 at 1:49 pm
Thank you so much for the beautiful comment, and thank you for being a good friend of me. I value your words a lot! God bless you.
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July 17, 2015 at 8:04 am
Oops … my name is Wendy! 🙂
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