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Put yourself in that person’s shoes

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I feel inspired to share with you all something about considering each other. We do a lot of things to make our friends happy, but sometimes we also do things that hurt their feelings. I observed one important way to be connected to each other, and have a better relationship.

Here is the way: Put yourself in that person’s shoes before saying something or doing something with that person. It will help you to understand everything you need to know about him or her and feel connected with that person.

When you put yourself in someone’s shoes, you start feeling how beautiful that person is. People would not hurt each other if they would have that consideration. For example, if someone makes a mistake and you correct him or her, then another day that person makes another mistake. Before you correct that person you need much consideration first, how is he or she going to feel? Maybe that person will think that you are judging them a lot, or you don’t appreciate what they are doing. You need to feel how the person is going to feel. Then you can correct that person without any doubt between both of you. And it may be easy for that person to fix his or her mistake.

Do you know that you can even understand a tree, what it needs? The good thing is we all know how other people feel, we can feel it. Every human being has that sense of feeling and knowing, but to use those senses is sometimes hard! That’s why sometimes we make mistakes, and people fail to be on the same page. Because they don’t want to put themselves in another person’s shoes.

Some people don’t want to pay a price for the benefit of their friends. That’s the reason why people take things for granted. For example, easy life, easy love, instead of considering people’s feelings. I think the world will be a better place if everyone would be considering one another.

28 thoughts on “Put yourself in that person’s shoes

  1. Lovely post, empathy is so important!

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  2. I really like this….and yes empathy is very important:)

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  3. Very good post thank you… an excellent reminder that it is better to think first at times before we speak.

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  4. So good to meet you, I love the consistent theme throughout what I have seen so far and will look forward to following your posts with sincere interest.

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  5. Within, deeply enough within, we are one another. When we harm another we harm ourselves. Through acknowledging that truth and acting from that understanding, if there is still to wish harm then the only question is why do I feel I want to hurt myself?

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    • Thank you for sharing with me. What you say is true. But many people also want to hurt themselves sometimes. So we need to ask, why am I feeling this bad feeling that makes me want to hurt myself, or someone else? We need to let go of the bad feeling.

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  6. People have to simply follow the Golden Rule. Don’t do to others what you don’t want others to do to you. If only that other person followed the golden rule, then he wouldn’t have a problem offending another. people tend to do wrong again when others don’t tell them about it. They either think what they’ve done is okay because no one has called them out on it, or if they actually know it’s offensive, then they’re happy they get away with it. I believe that people, whatever circumstances they’re in, have no right to hurt others.

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    • Sometimes people are unreliable and doing selfish things that hurts their and our feelings. The best thing we can do is live the example of a person who is reliable to other people and then hopefully other people will be inspired by that. Also I agree with you that we need to give people feedback, as a way of helping them to fix their mistakes.

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  7. What a wonderful person you are! I am so pleased to meet you~

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    • You are welcome. Thank you for encouraging me, your comment makes a big difference in my mission. Especially coming from you, who spent your whole life helping people as a therapist. I appreciate it.

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  8. This is lovely! I was feeling a bit down till I read this and I do appreciate this 🙂

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  9. The Bible says to inspire one another to love and good works and I have caught you in the act of doing that very thing. AWESOME! Keep it up! “-)

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  10. Lovely thoughts! There should be more special people like you in this world! Blessings!

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  11. This is especially true when the other person has a disability or illness. I know it is not easy to imagine how it would be, but with some thought and learning it can be achieved. I have Alzheimer’s Disease, and am trying to educate people in how it is to live well with it so that they can imagine what it is like and not guess. You write such wonderful words Wilson 🙂

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    • Your example is perfect. I sympathize with you. It is hard to have a disability or illness that people don’t understand. You are doing a great work of educating people in that way. Then they can understand you and many other people like you.

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  12. Reblogged this on beyondtheflow and commented:
    I particularly wanted to introduce you to Wilson who provides some great insights into trying to love and live better xx Rowena

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